Pretends to have an abortion
birth to her baby
Her parents wanted her to abort, but she cried out his "no" in the most courageous. Now embraces her child, ignorant of everything, close the fists and smiles. Miriam (his is a name) is 25 and a will of iron. She chose life going against the wishes of parents, against the righteous, against prejudice. Now he is proud and pleased to tell the world his joy, because no woman would be forced to give up a new life.

His is the story of a girl from a small town in Sicily. Comes from a good family, he studied at the University, but during an affair with a man he prefers not to talk, she discovers she is pregnant. She's scared, excited, excited. The idea of an induced abortion not glosses. So, as told by the "Giornale di Sicilia", he confides in her parents, but finds a wall of shame and dissent. "You have to have an abortion, you are not married, we can not lose face," he says. Miriam can not even respond, do not want to believe, feels terribly alone. But do not lose the right nor the courage. "I loved my baby from conception - says with emotion, still lying in hospital bed -. I have a strong parental vocation and I could not let anyone that the spark of life that had been lit in my womb was broken. "

Then uses a trick. Simulate a miscarriage, so no need to go to hospital. Then, when the parents are reassured, try to find another way to grow that life. Reflects, turns to social services through the Center help the life of his country, asked to be helped to continue the pregnancy. Niscemi to inform it that, in the province of Caltanissetta, there is a reception center "Don Pietro Bonilli" operated by the Sisters of the Holy Family born to host the women in distress. Almost two years ago Niscemi had climbed the headlines for a terrible history of violence by three minors who massacred and thrown into a well, a girl of 14 years, Lorraine Cultraro. Today, a few days from the day for life, becomes the place of hope.

Miriam thinks it's Providence to indicate that road. So she tells the parents that should go to a distant city to study and, instead, goes to where she found Niscemi Sister Genevieve and Sister Calì Providence Orobello with open arms. The eldest, Sister Genevieve, became a second mother to Miriam: The comforts, sustains, gives it the strength to go forward and not demoralized, is near the time of birth pangs. On 26 January Miriam hospital in Niscemi "Sister Cecilia Basarocco" where the light is the little Gianna, a beautiful child, plump and full of hair. Miriam wanted to give her the name of St. Gianna Beretta Molla, who has strenuously defended the life of the child she was carrying. The joy is infinite, indescribable. But Miriam, just hours after birth, is struck by a severe hemorrhage. That evening the team of Dr. John Di Leo intervenes to block it. Now they are good both mother and daughter. The room is a bustle of the ward sisters, volunteers, new friends of Miriam.

Vying to change diapers, put the little jumpsuit, rocked. "This girl has shown incredible strength and a weakness. It is true that the Lord does not abandon the weak, "says Providence Sr., 38, head of the house. It tells the happy ending of the story. "After the birth of Gianna, Miriam wanted to call his parents to whom he had concealed where she was really and why - adds Sister Providence -. Dad and Mom were stunned, but soon came to see her. A few days ago, grandparents, mother and granddaughter have embraced.
Alessandra Turrisi FUTURE

Freemasons and Catholics, alliance impossible
Dan Brown lost in the Creed often alludes to the enemies of Freemasonry as characters pathological fundamentalist Christian victims of absurd "conspiracy theories". It could be argued that the sermon is a strange pulpit, as some of the most bizarre conspiracy theories have been disclosed with great enthusiasm by Brown in his Angels and Demons and Da Vinci Code. But in truth the anti-Masonic born well before the Protestant fundamentalism of the religious right or the U.S. so little sympathy to Brown.

Even before the modern Freemasonry is founded in 1717, reactions already occurring anti-Masonic. In 1698, for example, a certain M. Winter (of which I find more biographical information) is distributing a handbill addressed "To all God-fearing people in the city of London," which warns against the "evil perpetrated in the face of God by so-called Masons ':' They are the Antichrist that is to remove the men from the fear of God Why do some men would meet in secret places and secret signs, taking care that no one sees them, if he were to accomplish the work of God? These are not the ways of the workers of iniquity?. Do not mingle with these people corrupt - recommends the flyer - not to be with them when will the consummation of the world. " As we see, the anti-Masons, and at least as old as Freemasonry. However, as is more appropriate to speak of Masonry, in the plural, so there are different types of anti-Masons. It should at least distinguish between an anti-Masonic "political," who often claim anti-Masonic and civil interdiction for the Masons, and an anti-Masonic-type 'doctrine' which criticizes the masonry on the philosophical and cultural.

The anti-Masonic "political" derives his arguments from the specific results of the Masonic method in this or that country, in this or that historical period, arguing that they are harmful or dangerous to society. The anti-Masonic "doctrinal" concentrates his criticism on the Masonic method as a constant in the history of Freemasonry, apart from the specific results of the method are from time to time derivatives. Of course, the anti-Masonic "political" el'antimassonismo 'doctrine' is, to use a sociological term, "ideal types" or "ideal types" that the interpreter can reconstruct but rarely encountered in pure form. Often you are faced with hybrid forms of anti-Masonic, which have elements of both the ideal type. However it is important to emphasize two important aspects of the history of anti-Masons. First, the anti-Masonic "political" does not necessarily presuppose the anti-Masonic "doctrinal." For example, Marxist forces could claim legal measures against the belief that Freemasonry is, in a particular historical situation, globally and at the same time harmful to welcome the Masonic method and the role of "progressive" who in other eras, had. Secondly, the anti-Masonic "doctrinal" will firmly maintain its criticism of Freemasonry regardless of specific positions that individual Masonic obedience take on this or that problem. In the Catholic world the teaching not, you can always say, the "dual membership" of the faithful with the Catholic Church and the Masons, and does so on the basis of a rigorous critique of doctrinal Masonic method, which always remains incompatible with Catholic faith what are the results as the application of the method in each door.

The current position and force of the Catholic Church is expressed in the Declaration on the masonry of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, 1983, signed by its prefect, then Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, but was endorsed by Pope John Paul II, so that should be considered mastery binding on all the faithful. According to this document, although the new Code of Canon Law of 1983 no longer refers to "excommunication" for the Masons, in reality "remains unchanged [...] the negative of the Church in regard to Masonic associations since their principles are always been considered irreconcilable with the doctrine of the Church and therefore membership in them remains forbidden. The faithful who belong to Masonic associations are in a state of grave sin and may not receive Holy Communion. " When some Mason argues that the fact that in the new Code does not use more the word excommunication can be seen that Catholics today could easily become Masons thus expresses the position of Masonry, not that of the Catholic Church. And what behavior should keep clearly led the Catholic Church in binding, not the masonry. Freemasonry is free to think that the Freemasons are Catholics.

But the Church teaches very clearly that Catholics can not be Masons. Although missing the word "excommunication" is the substance: the Catholics who are Masons' can not receive Holy Communion. " And the document also states that individual bishops can not change a decision that was taken in a formal and definitive by the Holy See. Important, accordingly, it is a text published by L'Osservatore Romano February 23, 1985, unsigned but which is commonly considered the author then Cardinal Ratzinger. The text is so to say the "motivation" of the "ruling" of 1983. According to this text, even if - to consider obedience for obedience, case by case, country by country - where there are specific results hostile to the Church, "the incompatibility of principles" remains steady, because - whatever its results - is always the Masonic method to be incompatible with Catholic faith. Someone points out the note of 1985, could argue that it is improper to speak of 'incompatibility of principles "because" the very essence of Freemasonry is made not to impose the "principle".

But this aspect as 'essential' is incompatible with Christian faith in its methodology: "Even if we say that relativism is not assumed as dogma" - precisely because there are no doctrines or dogmas - "nevertheless, it is proposed that a conception symbolic relativistic, and thus relativizing the value of such a moral community-ritual, far from being eliminated, it is crucial to the contrary. In this context, the different religious communities, which belong to the individual members of the lodges can be considered only as mere institutionalization of a broader and elusive truths. " Thus, "even when [...] there was no explicit obligation to profess relativism as a doctrine, however, the relativizing force of such a brotherhood, for its own intrinsic logic, has in itself the capacity to transform the structure of 'act of faith so radically as to be acceptable to a Christian "which is dear to his faith". The rite of initiation into a Masonic lodge affiliated with the second notch of the eighteenth century
Massimo Introvigne

 
and with all due respect ... ... .. In seven steps here as you can spoil the party

Mario Delpino

 

The festival of Christmas is so beautiful, so Christian, so special that it takes much effort to ruin. One should recognize that Christians, when they want, are genuinely committed. Point out some of these commitments:

Changing Names: Do not be called more <>, but <>
Applaud teachers and children for the Christmas play put on stage some silly fairy tale, not to offend non-Christians with the stories about the birth of Jesus
Teaching children to write letters to Santa with a string of requests capricious and costly, teach us to pray before the Child Jesus for the things that count.
Devote time to decide where to go skiing than to prepare the confession of Christmas.
Exaggerate: to eat too much, drinking too much, spend too much so as to have a headache and a bad grace that prevents even to visit friends, the poor, to the cemetery.
Finding relief in a day to forget for the world's problems and the existence of the poor.
Remember everyone, except celebrate Christmas, in itself, would be the birthday of Jesus
 

Christians are justified <And 'the world go so!>>. But the prophet answered: <The world is how we do go!>>.

 

Sections 5-6-7 personally I hit a lot ... ...

 

I PIU 'sincere wishes

A HOLY CHRISTMAS JESUS '

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And the Word became flesh ... 
  
 

  
William of St. Thierry,
the "Doctor of Sweetness"

Dear brothers and sisters,

a previous Catechesis I presented the figure of Bernard of Clairvaux, the "Doctor of sweetness", the great protagonist of the twelfth century. His biographer - a friend and admirer - was William of St. Thierry, on which I dwell in the thoughts this morning.
William was born in Liège between 1075 and 1080. Of noble family, with a lively intelligence and an innate love of learning, he attended the famous school of the time, like those of his native city and Reims, France. He came into personal contact with Abelard, the master that applied the philosophy to theology so original as to arouse many doubts and opposition.

William also expressed misgivings, asking his friend Bernard to take a stand against Abelard. In response to that mysterious and irresistible call of God, which is the vocation to consecrated life, William entered the Benedictine monastery of Saint-Nicaise in Reims in 1113, and a few years later he became abbot of the monastery of Saint-Thierry, in the diocese of Reims. At that time there was a widespread need to purify and renew the monastic life, to make it authentically evangelical. William must do so within his own monastery, and in general the Benedictine Order. However, many encountered resistance to his attempts to reform, and so, despite the contrary advice of his friend Bernard, in 1135, he left the Benedictine abbey, he stopped his black suit and donned the white one, to join the Cistercians of Signy . From then until his death in 1148, he devoted himself to prayerful contemplation of the mysteries of God, always the object of her deepest desires, and the composition of the writings of spiritual literature, important in the history of monastic theology.

One of his earliest works is entitled De natura et dignitate amoris (The nature and the dignity of love). There is therefore given one of the fundamental ideas of William, also valid for us. The main energy that moves the human mind - he says - is love. Human nature, in its deepest essence, is to love. Ultimately, only one task is assigned to every human being: to learn to love, to love, sincerely, authentically, free of charge. Only the school of God, this task is fulfilled and man can achieve the purpose for which it was created. William writes: "The art of arts is the art of love ... The love is aroused by the Creator of nature. Love is a force of soul which leads it like a natural place and weight end that is proper "(The nature and dignity of 1, PL 184.379). Learning to love requires a long and difficult path, which is articulated by William in four stages, corresponding to ages of man: childhood, youth, maturity and old age. In this route, the person must impose asceticism effective, a strong self-control to eliminate any inordinate affection, all yielding to selfishness, and unite their lives in God, source, goal and power of love, down to the summit of spiritual life, that William calls "wisdom". At the conclusion of this ascetic path, one experiences a great serenity and sweetness. All faculties - intelligence, will, affections - rest in God, known and loved in Christ.

Even in other works, William talks about this radical call to love God, which constitutes the secret of a happy and successful life, which he describes as a relentless desire and growing, inspired by God himself in human hearts. In meditation, he says that the object of that love is love with the "A" capital ", ie God is he that comes together in the heart of one who loves and makes him fit to receive. It is given to fill and so that fill this desire is never less. This rush of love is the fulfillment of man "(De Deo contemplating 6, passim, SC 61bis, pp. 79-83). It is striking that William, in speaking of love to God attaches great importance to the emotional dimension . After all, dear friends, our hearts are made of flesh, and when we love God who is Love itself, as not to give in this relationship with the Lord, even our humane sentiments, such as tenderness, sensitivity, delicacy? The Lord Himself, becoming man, chose to love us with a heart of flesh!

According to William, then, love has another important property: the intelligence and allows light to know God better and deeper and, in God, people and events. The knowledge that proceeds from the senses and intelligence reduces, but does not eliminate, the distance between subject and object, between me and you. Love instead produces attraction and communion, to the point that there is a transformation and assimilation between the person who loves and object loved. This reciprocity of affection and sympathy, then allows a much more profound than that made by reason alone. This explains the famous words of William: "Amor est intellectus ipse - already in itself the principle of love is knowledge." Dear friends, we ask: is not quite so in our lives? Is it not true that we only really know who and what we love? Without a certain sympathy do not know anyone and anything! This is true especially in the knowledge of God and his mysteries, which exceed the capacity of understanding of our intelligence: God knows you loves you!

A summary of the thought of William of St. Thierry is contained in a lengthy letter to the Carthusians of Mont-Dieu, with whom he had visited and wanted to encourage and console. The Benedictine scholar Jean Mabillon in 1690 already gave this letter a significant title: Epistola aurea (Letter of gold). In fact, the teachings on the spiritual life in it will be valuable to all those who wish to grow in communion with God in holiness. In this treatise William proposes an itinerary in three stages. Necessary - he says - he passes from the "animal" to "rational", to arrive to the "spiritual". What do you mean our author in these three expressions? At first a person accepts the view of life inspired by faith in an act of obedience and trust. Then through a process of internalization, in which reason and will play a big role, faith in Christ is greeted with deep conviction and you experience a harmonious match between what one believes and hopes and aspirations of the most secret ' soul, our reason, our affections. That brings me to the perfection of spiritual life, when the reality of faith is a source of deep joy and communion with God is real and fulfilling lives in love and only love. William founded this route on a solid vision of man, inspired by ancient Greek Fathers, especially to Origen, who, with a bold speech, had taught that man's vocation is to become like God, who created in his image and likeness. The image of God in man pushes him to the similarity, that is towards ever fuller identity between their will and the divine. In this perfection, that William calls the "unity of spirit" does not come with the personal effort, albeit sincere and generous, why is another matter. This perfection is achieved through the action of the Holy Spirit who dwells in the soul and purifies, absorbs and transforms into charity every impulse and every desire of love this man. "There is another image of God, we read in the Epistle aurea," which is said to be no more similarity, but unity of spirit, when man becomes one with God, a spirit, not only for the unity of identical will, but not in a position of wanting more. This man deserves to become not God but what God is, man becomes by grace what God is by nature "(Epistola aurea 262 -- 263, SC 223, pp. 353-355).

Dear brothers and sisters, this author, we might call the "singer of love, of charity," teaches us to work in our lives, the basic choice, which gives meaning and value to all other choices: to love God and, for love her, love our neighbor, the only way to find true joy, a foretaste of eternal bliss. Let then the school of the saints to learn to love authentically and total, to enter at this point of our being. With a young saint, Doctor of the Church, Teresa of the Child Jesus, we say to the Lord that we want to live for love. It concludes with a prayer of this saint: "I love you, and you know it, O Jesus! The Spirit of love inflames me with his fire. Amando Te drawn by the Father, that my poor heart keep hopeless. O Trinity! are a prisoner of my love. To live with love, here is a perhaps disproportionate, without asking salary ... when you love not done the calculations. I gave everything to the Divine Heart, which is full of tenderness! And I run a little. I have nothing, and my only wealth is to live with love. "
 
POPE BENEDICT XVI
DA AVVENIRE 

21 ottobre 2009
Little Elvis, il suo e il nostro Napoli, l´assedio di mali vecchi e nuovi
Muoiono di povertà in cui le persone vivono in povertà
Elvis, 6 anni, Capo Verde, è venuto a morire di povertà a Napoli. Non c´è posto più terribile di morire di fame, perché a Napoli, per antica consuetudine, di povertà, invece, si vive. Il ´basso´ in cui Elvis ha vissuto con la madre, hanno una porta che si affaccia sulla strada, ma ancor più, della vita: come un aspetto migliore in faccia e affrontare giorno dopo giorno con i mezzi che anche coloro che arrivano da altri mondi di privazione, impara presto a conoscere. Nel ´basso´ è stretto, anche una piccola famiglia di madre e figlio alla fine aveva poco spazio, perché abbiamo sempre spazio per un inquilino che si chiama povertà. E così un inquilino, le tasse non sono sempre abbastanza ordinaria, né è spesso succede che lascia ammorbidito da una rete di reciproco aiuto sempre al lavoro, una forma di solidarietà e l´attuale progetto, che attraversa i vicoli e li motiva molto di più che la luce del sole sporadici.

Povertà dimostra anche che è diventato più esigente. L´uscita dal ´basso´ e non solo a Napoli, si trasferì alla conquista dello spazio è più ampio, e, una volta, inesplorato. Uffici di ricerca seguire passo a passo su mappe cartacee. Ma quelli che lo vedono chiudere le porte hanno imparato a distinguere da lontano, e temendo i segni: quello che, forse, non poteva fare la mamma Manuela, la sua povertà in casa e si era già riuscito in qualche modo a domarla. Solo Elvis, si trova a suo agio tra i compagni nel vicolo, e la posizione della scuola sempre in ordine, semmai, il contrario è stato il segno di un timido, benessere skinny che mai - sembrava - potrebbe essere offuscata da una bolletta di energia elettrica è arrivato tardi. Anche la linea di povertà, come quella della ricchezza, ha i suoi parametri, e quella del braciere, che è stato sempre in basso utilizzato come strumento di casa finito per la combustione di più il calore di dare una vita. Quali una forma estrema di povertà non solo rende questa morte ancora più insopportabile che è riuscito a creep, traditore, velenosi, tra le porte spalancate, dove la povertà può colpire attraverso tutte le tracce che lascia. Una vita di stenti non equivale sempre ad una vita di miseria. E si dice che il "basso" e può vedere solo orizzonti buio.

Ma sei anni in un alito di vita che lo ha accompagnato, a Elvis certamente toccato il diritto di non avere a che fare con questo. Aveva, a suo modo, già imparato a guardare avanti. A scuola era buono e anche simpatico, e dei suoi compagni andò a cercare quando lo videro. Non poteva sapere di quel soffio di vita già minacciata dalla povertà resti di un tenace e caparbio che è venuto per dare la caccia a lui da un capo all´altro del mondo. Con tutte le sue tragedie e le sue emergenze in corso, tra cui Napoli, nel vasto panorama delle difficoltà del mondo può essere una porta. Ma qui, nascosto dietro le quinte di una città che, schermatura suo tentativo poveri per salvare se stessa e, Elvis è stato visto atrocemente chiedere il conto. Le diede qualche anno, ma cerchiamo di vedere come grandi erano le sue speranze. E Napoli, dove propone il suo cuore è ferito. La morte di Elvis, e il dramma della madre, in lotta per la vita, non a far parte della sua cronaca ordinaria. Un fattore, ma non spiega tutto, anche il sentimento di protezione per i bambini. La tragedia di Elvis è, in ogni senso, anche il dramma di una città che, pur assediato dai suoi mali antichi, non può fare a meno di guardarsi intorno per vedere anche il rullante di nuovi. Povertà cambia anche la sua pelle. Ed è sempre su un braciere.
Angelo Scelzo ad Avvenire

                                                            Youth suicide, questions that torment
He, a fifteen-year of Indian origin, adopted by a family of power, has perhaps decided to put an end to a love disappointment. So it was on fire and died. You, the same age, from Milan, was thrown under the subway. It was saved in extremis, but loses an arm. Why? Perhaps he had not accepted the separation of parents. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps ... We need to repeat it a thousand times when you try to investigate the reasons that they por ¬ adolescent choose a 'call out' to live no more. For ¬ because even where the motivation seems obvious - the young lu ¬ cano had sent an sms to explain his gesture - in reality there is never one single reason, a single impulse. Behind the choice of death intrec ¬ overlapping cyan and dozens of negative stimuli, thoughts of ¬ crooked and misleading. Perhaps not even them, the children who no longer want there ¬ true, could say to explain what was really behind that their terribi ¬ le, unnatural, tragic jump in anything. Yesterday Pransath Folliero, had sent three messaggini to his sister, a vi ¬ cino home and a friend: "Do not do it more, I am going to butt. I tro ¬ verete sull'asfalto "

Thus, for a disappointment in love, has committed suicide dan ¬ doses fire with gasoline and then throwing from a staircase. He had been in ¬ dottato in 1996 by a family of Pignola (Potenza). Yesterday morning pre ¬ so a bus and instead of heading to school science Galilei ", where the frequent IH, reached a staircase in the center. Having laid the zai ¬ net, which had put a bottle full of gasoline, took the phone and sent three text messages. Then the fatal act. Shortly after the arrival of ¬ mother and sister (two years for larger).

The girl was in school, at technical co ¬ commercial "Nitti", on the outskirts of the city. In the center was accom ¬ dressed by a school employee who, during the journey by car, was told that a few days Prasanth was sad, not eating. Tut ¬ to because of "a cooked" unfortunate. Nothing. At least in appearance. The two brothers, in fact, were perfectly integrated, popular and loved by the parents. He attended the parish with an altar from the past, it is fun with guitar and keyboards, no hesitations sport.

Without any particular problems or to study or to friends. Much like the story of the Milanese girl who tried to take her life. Yesterday morning, instead of going to school, fell in the station ¬ Primatic this line of 1 meter and was thrown under the train. A gesture, it would explain gato ¬ mom, never announced in advance. Some difficulties had already ¬ contrata: a failure at school, his parents separated, perhaps a po 'of jealousy towards the younger brother. "The mother - told the police - has det ¬ to her daughter last year had been rejected and that was followed by a psy ¬ cologo. But the grandfather, Peter V., categorically denied that he suffered mental problems. "There had never absorbed the shock of the separation of ge ¬ suppliers, but there was no sign that would presage a similar gesture."

Sister Roberta Vinerba
"The pain gives meaning to life but no one teaches the boys'
Lucia Bellaspiga

Dying by noise. Throw himself under a subway at the peak or become a human torch in the square, to tell everyone 'I exist'. An incomprehensible, but located in an explanation of who is experienced in adolescence: 'At this age children do not conceive the future, are overwhelmed by emotions of the present, good or bad it is, and thus live in an all - "explains Sister Roberta Vinerba, professor of moral theology, affectivity adolescents scholar and author of the book" If this is love "(Paoline ed.).

The impulsiveness is typical of boys, but how you arrive at such violent extremes?
There is no discomfort adolescence without a responsibility for us adults. We have removed their ability to decode the emotions and integrate them into a life project which involves a tomorrow in which to enter into the game the ability to lead a pain ...

And so any suffering becomes insurmountable, to the point of killing?
None tempers more children, do not teach that suffering one can endure and even can give meaning to life, can be valuable to grow. On the other hand, bad teachers, among adults, are somewhat 'everywhere and give an example.

Who are you referring to?
A pervasive culture. I say that I know of these two poor families, and certainly not wearing any responsibility for them is the whole of society that deceives adolescents. Today, adults are the first to behave as teenagers, can be overwhelmed by this in front of children, shall see that passion in every moment when you try and master all-of us, of our action, and there is no rational brake that takes. It preaches in TV, in living rooms that count, and the boys are continually asked to resign from life. He teaches you the honor, responsibility, the word, making their lives a challenge valuable, all things that young people would in itself, since dislike mediocrity and like dreams ...

Too much protection and little gym of life, in short.
Today, the obsession of adults is to avoid any cross for their children. I like twenty years hundreds of courses for teenagers and port mountain is part of my pedagogy. In the morning, first of movement, it is normal for anyone to feel the anxiety of the board and complain about why a dolorino asking to stay in the valley. In reality then, going with the group, the obstacle is over: it is called "the power of the group" and it is educational. But a few years to assist fathers and mothers who call me that morning, from home to tell his son that he hurt a knee and not ascend. So we lose a fundamental discovery that in itself have the strength to overcome the obstacle, tightening the teeth, looking away from the goal.

A goal hard, which can be love, or success at school ...
Exactly. How often arrive in June, and we hear of kids who hang over a simple rejection? And it seems possible that we have to put up every year that the Minister of Education to go on duty with tg hosts of psychologists to explain to kids that the test of maturity is not a tragedy? No, it is not the fault dell'adolescente, who does not want to sweat or suffering is normal, but there's more adult, against which the bank can go and fringes the tide of youth anxiety. Missing someone who clearly tell where the truth with which to contend, even to reject it.
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Anna Oliverio Ferraris
"We must bring the impetus to a rational reasoning '

Adolescents, or impulsive, in an instant, decide and implement. And to lead them towards the end may be sufficient adult what the eye looks like a nothing, but they mean tragedy: "A disappointment on the part of friends or loved one, a bad figure to the world, then perhaps that is only a bad vote taken at school. But increasingly it appears a youth depression, perhaps related to the family situation that creates unhappiness ...». There is some 'all in the proposal by Anna Oliverio Ferraris, professor of Developmental Psychology at the Sapienza of Rome and author of a recent book dedicated to adolescent suicide ( "called out", ed. Giunti), almost A summary of the two events occurred yesterday.

Two very different, however.
Both have chosen a blatant death, but every story is always to himself. The boy power, apparently disappointed over love, has killed to stay forever in the memory of his little girl how to tell you I wanted to forget and I want to dwell forever in your memory. Also had been adopted and this could lead to fractures in its ancient past with a figure ... but certainly it must be said that not all adopted children react this way.

Certain is that in both cases we see yesterday's propensity to experience the difficulties of life as unbearable tragedies.
It is an attitude typical of adolescents, a key aspect of their impulsiveness: at this age you decide everything in a short time, and any bad fills the horizon today, there is no more. A girl can satisfy the fragile bruttina considered in a world that values appearance, to feel unhappy ... To this should be that there was always an adult ready to show them the other side of the coin, the impulsiveness that leads to a rational argument. Words that give them the strength to overcome the discomfort.

But how can it be that a boy has not the strength to forget a lost love or the shame of rejection, but then finds the courage to throw himself under the fire itself or subway?
Are teenagers who do not have the perception of pain which will encounter is thrown under the train to arrive without thinking. They really only the present moment, acting pulse is usually not premeditated. The girl acted as Milan ...

Not the boy of power, though.
His hand gesture is a preparation course, has even chosen the scenario at the heart of his shouting as self.

According to its investigation, there is some difference between boys and girls who arrive in extreme choices?
The boys succeed more often to die, the girls frequently stop to suicide attempt but survived: acting with less determination because it does not seek to die, their is a request for help, communicate that they are evil. However, it is not the case in Milan teenager: she chose a "masculine", dramatic, it was determined ...
There is a resurgence of these cases? <+ tondo> Italy minimal, not significant. Furthermore it is known that adolescence is a critical stage. Then, to twenty years, the impulsiveness set for physiological reasons: first of that the prefrontal cortex in the brain, which regulates precisely this sudden act, is not yet fully myelinated. You understand, then, how vital the proximity of an adult in that critical moment of pain, able to reason with and for them